So, first the bad news. Time management, for all it's celebrated to be, is a bit of a farce. I can feel you shaking your head in disbelief already. But it's true, folks. We ALL get the same 24 hours in a day - you, me, and SuperMom over there who makes raising kids, working full time, and being the PTA Mom of the Year (at two different schools) look like a cake walk.
OK, so I'm teasing about the SuperMom part (Well, that she's the PTA Mom of the Year at TWO schools, anyway. Maybe just one). Do you know what's going on behind her doors? Her closet doors? Her pantry doors? Her laundry doors? Me neither. But, if I had to guess.....well, I'm trained to check my judgment at the door.
Indulge me for a moment, will you? In just under 3.5 minutes, Mike Vardy's TedX Victoria presentation says, more eloquently than I ever will, How To Stop Time. It's the QUALITY of what we do, not the quantity.
Have a happy day, my friends - do some quality stuff out there!
Some of you already know that I am a breast cancer survivor. If not, here's a short synopsis of my journey. As with all cancer victims, our stories are as individual as we are.
Anyways...the point of my story, is that bra shopping IS NOT my favorite activity. Even after 15 years the memories can rear their ugly heads and render me to tears. So, with a heavy heart I was talked into getting a bra fitting. Stick with me - it gets better from here!
I hadn't been fitted in years. Ladies, I'm telling you, if you haven't done this lately either follow Real Simple's bra-fitting guide, or head into Victoria's Secret and get it done. It makes a HUGE difference. I was completely shocked when I found out what my correct size was, AND the difference it made in how I felt (and looked). Evidently I'm not alone - 8 out of 10 women aren't wearing the correct size.
Upon arriving home I realized I had 6 nice bras in my drawer that didn't fit me. You know I can't stand throwing things out, and giving used bras to Goodwill seemed, well, a little odd. What to do? A Google search, of course, which lead me to multiple organizations that "specialize" in the distribution of donated bras for good causes. I chose The Bra Recyclers. Yes, I had to pay for shipping, about the cost of my favorite Caribou beverage, and it made me feel good.
The average woman owns 6 bras but only wears 2. How about you? Would you (or do you) donate to a bra recycling organization? Comment below, please!
So, are you a Forget Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Rise kind of person? Me, I'm a little in the middle - as many of us probably are.
Those overwhelming fears of never getting started, never getting it done perfectly, never getting it done at all - these fears can cripple us enough to want to forget everything and run off to seek safety. I raise my hand high as one who often fears the administrative tasks that lie on my office desk in wait for when I have "time" to get to them - often late at night when mental acuity is low and everything seems....well...harder!
Disorganization all around us creates more stumbling blocks to getting started and finishing tasks at hand so that we can move on to the things that put a smile on our faces and make life what it should be - enjoyable!
If disorganization and/or clutter is making you want to run, reach out today - call, text, email - and RISE above with the support of a Certified Professional Organizer and her team - we all want to see you succeed! I hope to hear from you soon!
Perhaps you are familiar with the Taoist parable I'm going to share. Our keynote speaker at the NAPO conference, Scott Greenberg, shared it at the end of his speech, and it struck a chord with most of us. Our "luck" or circumstances, or whatever you choose to call it, can change in a minute.
It begins with a poor farmer in ancient China who worked a small plot of land with his teenage son. During this time horses were considered a sign of wealth; the richest person in the province owned no more than a few of them. One day a wild horse jumped the poor farmer’s fence and began grazing on his land. According to local law, this meant that the horse now rightfully belonged to him and his family. The son could hardly contain his joy, but the father put his hand on his son’s shoulder and said, “Who knows what’s good or bad?”
The next day the horse made its escape back to the mountains and the boy was heartbroken. “Who knows what’s good or bad?” his father said again. On the third day the horse returned with a dozen wild horses following.
“We’re rich!” the son cried, to which the father again replied, “Who knows what’s good or bad?” On the fourth day the boy climbed on one of the wild horses and was thrown, breaking his leg. His father ran to get the doctor; soon both of them were attending to the boy, who was upset and in a great deal of pain. The old farmer looked deeply into his son’s eyes and said, “My son, who knows what is good or bad?” And on the fifth day the province went to war. Army recruiters came through the town and took all the eligible young men to fight the war. All except for the young man with the broken leg.
What about you? Ever had a "bad" experience that ended up being "good" in the long run? Please share in the comments below! Anyone with the reverse? A "good" that maybe wasn't so much so in the long run? We'd like to hear from you, too!
"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."- A. Einstein
Well heeellloooo, Einstein! This quote literally jumped off the page when I saw it. Why does it speak to me? Because almost all Chronically Disorganized clients with whom I work feel poorly about themselves and their abilities to keep some semblance of order in their lives, when it ISN'T THEIR FAULT! They're judging themselves (as all of us tend to do) by another person's organizational ability.
You've heard me say it before, and I'll say it again - organizing is not a "one size fits all" approach. There isn't a single organizing book written (until I decide to write one!) with methods that will work for everyone on the planet. Not even the great Mari Kondo and her "Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up" doesn't work for everyone. Yes, I've read it. No, I don't do everything she says. If you've read the book, comment below - I'd love to hear your thoughts!
My job - my purpose for creating We Love Messes - is to support my clients, to help them understand first why they are disorganized, and then to help them learn how they can change their approaches and create systems that work for them as individuals! If Einstein's quote jumps off the page for you too, call me today - we offer a free phone consultation!
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