It probably doesn't come as any surprise that physical "stuff" is not the only clutter in our lives. There is mental clutter, time clutter, too-many-commitments clutter, OMG-WHY-did-I-Say-YES-to-this clutter...you get the picture.
What's a person to do? There are so many requests, ahem I mean *opportunities*, for us to say Yes. A shocking revelation? It's OK to just...say...NO!
Not an abrupt "absolutely not, I can't believe you're even asking me that" NO. Perhaps a kinder, gentler, "I'm honored to be considered but that doesn't fit into my calendar right now".
A very wise person told me when I was struggling with a way out of a commitment that wasn't ringing true to me, that a lengthy explanation of WHY it wasn't working for me was not necessary. This wise person told me to simply, "tell him, as nicely as you please, that it's not working out. If he asks any questions, just keep repeating it".
Guess what? IT WORKED, and has been a game-changer for me! Have I mentioned how wise this person is? The point in a nutshell here? It's OK to say NO - in fact, it's probably healthy to practice saying NO! And we don't have to offer justification for everything. We can't be everything to everybody, or we are nothing to ourselves.
How will you practice (because it does take practice) saying no to today?
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